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In this new hookup culture most people seem to thrive in, chivalry seems to be at the bottom of the list for the majority of men. It is not something they prioritize anymore. Men are going through everyday life without common courtesy, as they are not expected to treat women with courtesy for some reason. As an unromantic generation, we are letting them think it is OK to do so.
The definition of chivalry is the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight: courage, honor, courtesy, justice and a readiness to help the weak. This may seem a little dramatic due to the fact this term was used in medieval times for how knights should treat a queen or princess. It also may be outdated, but the tradition should still stand. Yes, this is the 21st century, but women still deserve to be treated as queens. Chivalry is about having respect for women, especially if a man is dating or in a relationship with her.
Today’s men are underestimating the small things. Something as simple as holding the door open, pulling back a chair or paying for dinner can really make a woman happy and show you appreciate her. These things may seem traditional. Some men may think the times are changing, but values and morals should not dissipate. It’s understandable that some young men did not grow up with an example of male chivalry in their life, but that does not give them an excuse to be ignorant to gentlemanly behavior. As time goes by, he needs to educate himself on how a man should treat a woman.
Chivalry in today’s society means walking your date or girlfriend to her door when dropping her off back home after date night. It means not texting or calling a woman late at night, also known as a “booty call.” It means not playing on your phone while on a date with a woman, especially if this woman means something special to you.
Men of this generation will meet a woman at a bar and not even buy her a drink. They intend to take women home for their own selfish “needs.” He might take her to dinner, but he’ll make her pay her own portion of the meal. At the end of the night, he’ll bring her home, sleep with her and expect her to call an Uber in the morning to avoid any further contact.
Men cannot be given any excuses for being egotistical jerks. Some men think acts of chivalry are humiliating and embarrassing. It is time for men to suck it up and learn how to be men. They are the reason chivalry is dead and gone, and more of them are constantly populating the earth.
Some men say the feminist movement is growing and women do not need them how they used to. Regardless of the number of feminists, women will always want a respectful man by her side. A man should want to do everything he can for a woman he sees a future with and loves beyond words.
A common phrase to describe this notion is, “A real woman can go through anything on her own, but a real man won’t let her.”
Practicing chivalry is all about having respect for the lady. Doing the small things goes a long way, and the lady gives respect in return. A woman can do so much more for her man when treated with the respect she deserves. I do not know why men are losing the chivalrous touch, but it is hurting our society.
Kiana Naquin is a 20-year-old English sophomore from Baton, Rouge Louisiana.